The Kinky Healing Vault
Heal existing sexual trauma & create an amazing BDSM dynamic in just 3 months through DIY courses and 1:1 support.
You deserve a love life* better than the steamiest fiction.
As a trauma survivor, reconnecting with your body and your authentic sexuality isn’t just about creating healthier relationships. It’s about waking up with joy every single day; falling in love with the person you see in the mirror; and having confidence to pursue your biggest, wildest, most audacious dreams.
And as a kinky (or kink-curious) trauma survivor, you also deserve to explore BDSM in a way that your body adores. That’s why my role goes beyond helping you heal sexual trauma — it’s about equipping you with tools to create ethical BDSM dynamics where you have fun; expand your boundaries safely; and feel seen, supported, and understood.
*Sex, queerplatonic relationships, BDSM dynamics, triads… we don’t discriminate! LGBTQIA+ folx (including asexuals) and poly folx are celebrated and welcome here.
It’s time to stop letting trauma dictate your 💕love life.💕
If you’re like most trauma survivors, your sex life probably feels more like a minefield rather than chock-full of the fun, healing, and liberation your heart truly desires. It’s been years since the original trauma(s) happened, but when it comes time to go on a date, update your profile, have sex, kiss the girl, negotiate a scene… your body goes into lockdown mode and you run in the opposite direction of the very things you want.
And if you’re interested in BDSM at all, even the thought of getting started with kink might feel so overwhelming you want to hide under the covers for the rest of the day.
Sure, there’s a big part of you that wants to sprint towards sexy, kinky experiences with open arms, but another part (the one hiding under the covers) is hitting the emergency brake hard and fast without your consent.
This tug-of-war can leave you feeling stuck in place, yearning for connections and experiences that feel perpetually out of reach.
And this back-and-forth isn’t just impacting your intimate relationships and any “sexy time” — it’s also taking an unseen toll on other areas of your life… physical health, sleep, friendships, your parenting (if you have kids), and even your finances.
The good news?
There’s light at the end of this seemingly endless tunnel. The Kinky Healing Vault was designed with you in mind: a safe space where healing from sexual trauma intersects with exploring BDSM safely and ethically.
Through personalized support and self-paced content tailored specifically for trauma survivors who want to explore kink, we’ll work together to dismantle those barriers holding you back.
On the other side, you’ll not only meet your authentic self and feel comfortable exploring your desires but also create meaningful relationships and dynamics filled with love, respect, and even adoration.
Ready to make this your reality?
Join me inside The Kinky Healing Vault over the next 3 months.
You’ll step back into the driver’s seat and create the BDSM dynamic of your dreams.
Enter the Kinky Healing Vault.
This 12-week program is the ultimate backstage pass to sexual trauma healing and exploring BDSM safely and ethically. With a blend of self-paced courses, a custom roadmap just for you, and direct 1:1 access to an experienced trauma healer and BDSM coach, you can get the exact support you need when you need it most.
In 3 months, you’ll cover the same ground as my 1:1 coaching clients do in years, at just a fraction of the price. By the end of our time together, you’ll see genuine changes in your life, relationships, and BDSM dynamics so long as you put in the work.
After The Kinky Healing Vault, here's what you'll be able to do...
Confidently listen to your intuition and uphold your boundaries so you only attract partners, Doms, and subs who treat you with love, respect, and adoration.
Explore those kinky and “taboo” desires you’ve secretly had for years, knowing that you have a proven roadmap to engage with them safely, ethically, and without shame.
Get ready for a date, bubbling with excitement, because you know you’re about to meet someone who embraces your kinkiest desires and wants to explore them with you safely.
Feel less negative impacts of existing mental health issues, including depression, anxiety, OCD, and PTSD because your life of pleasure increases dopamine and serotonin.
Attend a BDSM play party or retreat feeling like a VIP guest: confident, comfortable, and utterly yourself. However you play, you have fun and make lifelong connections.
Create steamy scenes and dynamics as you connect with yourself and others through BDSM and sex. Every touch is imbued with trust, mutual respect, and care.
But most important...
You’ll be living a life where trauma no longer dictates your capacity for joy, connection, and kinky exploration.
It’s quite the view from here, isn’t it? 🌈
What's Included in The Kinky Healing Vault
Are you a fellow list lover? Here’s exactly what’s included in the Kinky Healing Vault to make sure it’s a powerful, productive, and truly satisfying experience:
- A personalized client portal: This is where you’ll find the link to book your 1:1 coaching call with me, links to on-demand classes, upcoming live masterclasses, and my Voxer info (in case you forgot).
- VIP Kickoff Call (30 minutes): During this Zoom call, we’ll identify your core 1-3 goals related to sex, dating, relationships, and BDSM, and what’s kept you stuck so far. From here, I’ll create your customized 3-month roadmap so you have a clear plan of action for how to work through the oodles of content you’ll get as part of the Vault.
- Customized roadmap: A graphic roadmap designed just for you that outlines your unique path through all of the content and courses you’re getting… let me cut through the overwhelm for you. You’ll also get a Loom video walkthrough so you know why I’m making the recommendations I am.
- Unlimited 1:1 coaching access via Voxer: Yes, it really is unlimited, though I ask you keep messages to no more than 5 minutes and send one at a time. Message me any time of day when you have questions or thoughts you need to voice, and I’ll respond within 24 hours (usually much less) on weekdays during business hours in my time zone (Central US).
- LIFETIME ACCESS: Oodles of self-paced content (retail value: $630+): Get access to all my existing self-paced course content, including the Sexual Healing Challenge, Conscious Kink Bootcamp, Better BDSM Limit List, Heal Past Life Trauma, 21-Day Chakra Cleanse for Sexual Empowerment, and Kink + Trauma 101.
- LIFETIME ACCESS: Your seat saved at 8 upcoming masterclasses (retail value: $320+): Beginning in March, I’ll be leading twice-monthly masterclasses on sexual trauma healing and BDSM covering many topics you won’t find elsewhere. If you can’t join live, replays will be added to your course portal. See topics in the FAQs.
- Pay-in-full bonus: 90-minute Zoom coaching session where we can dive even deeper than we can over Voxer. Great for releasing and rewiring limiting beliefs, healing trauma from childhood, and creating an action plan. Use it at the beginning or end, or in the middle if you get stuck.
Ready to get the luxe treatment?
You’ll get immediate access to almost all of my existing self-paced content once you make your payment. Plus, you can go ahead and book your kickoff call straightaway, too.
Meet Your Coach
Hi, I'm Zeva! (they/them)
I’m a holistic trauma healer and kink/BDSM educator. While I love celebrating my sexuality and spirituality through kink, BDSM, and sex, it wasn’t always this way.
See, I was raised Catholic, so in high school and college, I believed sex was dirty and my body was dirty. I felt shame around masturbation, and while I’m proudly out as a queer, non-binary person now, back then I felt shame for any “lustful thoughts” I had about women, too.
It wasn’t until 2012 when I left the Catholic Church that I started healing from this sexual trauma and slowly learning what my authentic sexuality looked like, free of the influence of trauma. Because I didn’t have a coach or mentor that I could ask questions, a lot of my healing was piece-meal, and I experienced a lot through trial-and-error.
That’s why in late 2019, I began teaching and coaching on sexual trauma healing and ethical BDSM. I knew the process could be overwhelming and that resources (and mentors) were far too scarce, so I stepped in to fill the void.
Let me be the mentor for you that I never had, so you can get results in a fraction of the time.
Why am I a mentor you can trust?
I’m so glad you asked! Here’s why I’m the best possible coach to support you.
Because of my Catholic roots, I know what it’s like to grow up with sexual trauma and self-hatred. A virgin until 22 but now functionally married with a kid, I can guide you through it all.
Not only have I been in my local kink community for 7 years, but I’ve been to dozens of parties and BDSM events. I can guide you through your first or next event with ease.
As a Switch and ageplayer in a relationship with a Daddy Dom and sadist, I have perspective on both sides of the slash. I can guide you through kinky situations many others can’t.
For the past 5 years, I’ve coached people who have suffered immense trauma, including rape and incest. Because of this experience, I operate with immense care.
My courses and content are filled with simple, practical tools that can support anyone — like my Traffic Light Trauma Framework, which clients have said is ‘life-changing.’
I’ve coached all kinds of people — divorcees, married couples, people who have always been single — as well as queer, trans, and asexual folx. I’m here to support you.
Want a glimpse of your future results?
Here’s what past clients have to say about working with me and the transformation they experienced.
“Working with Zeva for the past 3 years has been worth every penny.”
“Working with Zeva for the past three years has been worth every penny. During that time, I left a job I didn’t like, began helping others heal, and have explored parts of my sexuality that I felt ashamed of. This is just what my soul needed.”
“Since my session, I’ve had better sex, and more self-confidence.”
“Zeva exceeded my expectations and did an amazing job making me feel comfortable talking about sensitive issues. Since my session, I’ve already had much better communication, better sex, and more self-confidence.”
“I’ve created amazing relationships and love myself more than ever before.”
“I was single for a really long time. Coaching with Zeva has helped me release fear, anxiety… so much of what I’ve been holding onto, and I feel so light. Since working with Zeva, I’ve created amazing relationships, and I love myself more than ever before.”
“I’ve seen immediate results, and I’m moving at a very fast pace.”
“It has just been phenomenal working with Zeva and healing my past relationship trauma. I’ve seen immediate results, and I’m moving at a very fast pace… I’ve learned to communicate more effectively, and that’s helped me create healthier relationships.”
The Investment
You’ve probably already invested thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours into therapy — so I want this process to be efficient and affordable.
In the past, I’ve charged $150 for a single Voxer Power Hour and $350 for a 90-minute coaching session over Zoom. The content that you get immediate access to has a retail value of $630+. Attending my upcoming masterclasses will be $40 a pop ($320 to attend them all).
Total, the retail value of The Kinky Healing Vault is at least $5,500.
But you can get it for less than the price of my DIY content alone.
That’s basically like getting 3 months of free 1:1 coaching!
Pay in Full: $800
Save $22 and get a 90-minute 1:1 coaching session with me over Zoom were we’ll dive even deeper into your healing than we can over Voxer.
Klarna, Affirm, and Afterpay available.
Monthly Payments: $274 x 3
More flexible payment options, so you can pay as-you-go and still get support. No credit checks.
Please note: If your account becomes truant, services will be suspended until you’re up to date.
More student results & feedback
With screenshots to show it in their own words!
“An informative and fun class.”
I would like to add that your personal shares and the experience that you have earned in this area [trauma healing, BDSM] combined with an engaging personality made for a fun and informative class… I noted the skill at presenting the material that you wished to cover.
“Our sex life is amazing after our session.”
Thank you. More amazing things are happening. Like I am on the alert to signs. Our sex life is amazing after our session.
Answers to your ❤️🔥 burning ❤️🔥 desires questions
Q: What does The Kinky Healing Vault include?
The Kinky Healing Vault includes:
- 30-minute kickoff call via Zoom
- $630+ of self-paced content related to kink/BDSM and sexual trauma healing
- Access to 8 paid masterclasses that I’ll be leading live this spring (March-June 2025)
- 12 weeks of 1:1 access to me via Voxer
- Personalized roadmap so you know how and when to prioritize the content
Plus, if you pay in full, you’ll also get a 90-minute coaching session with me ($350 value).
Total, the retail value of this much content and access to me would be at least $5,500 if you paid for everything separately. It’s the deal of the season!
Q: Who is The Kinky Healing Vault for?
As long as you are a queer ally/co-conspirator and we align on our values of unity, inclusivity, and amplifying marginalized voices, I would love to support you. I do not work with cis-het men and women who write gay fiction.
Q: I have a partner – can we use the content together?
If you will be going through the content at the same time, sure thing! As part of The Kinky Healing Vault, you will receive one login for the content that you’re getting access to. If you wish, you may invite one (1) partner to the kickoff call, and the custom roadmap will be created with both of you (and your relationship in mind). Only one person will receive private Voxer access to me.
Q: I’m interested in sexual trauma healing, but not BDSM (or vice versa). Is the vault still a wise investment for me?
Yes, absolutely! There’s plenty of content for you no matter what you’re most interested in. I can easily create a roadmap for you if you’re interested in sexual trauma healing but not BDSM — I’ve had multiple coaching clients who have not been interested in BDSM, and we’re still doing work together years later.
If you’re interested in kink, but not trauma healing, I’ll still recommend resources so you can create a safer, trauma-sensitive BDSM practice, but we’ll focus most on BDSM.
Plus, when you message me 1:1, we’ll address whatever you need most, regardless of the topic.
Q: What content and courses are included in the vault?
You’ll get access to several different courses and workshops I’ve created over the past 5 years, as well as two different challenges. Here’s a complete list:
- Radically Easy Relationship Convos: How to make difficult conversations in your relationships radically easy using non-violent communication (NVC) and my 2:3:2 Conversation Framework.
- Safer Scene Worksheets: 5 different worksheets (PDF) that guide you through key questions to ask yourself and your partners before you scene together. Trauma-sensitive and energetically informed.
- Better BDSM Limit List: My trauma-sensitive BDSM limit list that’s filterable and better for newbies, trauma survivors, and experienced kink practitioners. More than that… It’s got video content explaining what limits are, so it’s really a mini-course.
- Kink + Trauma 101: A presentation I gave at the Dom/sub Dynamics Virtual Summit that was highly rated. Not normally available.
- Sexual Healing Challenge: A 5-day challenge designed to help you dive deep into your existing sexual trauma to heal and move forward. More than 300 people have gone through this challenge, and people have consistently had massive breakthroughs. One of my clients is still working with me 5 years later because of the breakthroughs she had during this event. Includes instruction, meditations, and exercises.
- Conscious Kink Bootcamp: A 5-day challenge to help newbies and trauma survivors get started with kink/BDSM, but also great for more experienced kinksters who want to bring more intention, trauma awareness, and energetics into their play. I then added additional content about consent, sexuality, and kinky play so that it’s more of a course than just a week-long challenge.
- Past Life Trauma Healing: 60-minute group workshop that was led live where I guide everyone present through a past life healing experience.
- Etheric DNA Activation: 20-minute meditation/transmission that helps activate the spiritual strands of your DNA for more joy, abundance, and love.
- 21-Day Chakra Cleanse for Sexual Empowerment: 3-week course that involves a daily meditation and journaling prompt, and a weekly process that’s longer that will help you heal trauma on a deeper level. This is a great follow-up to the Sexual Healing Challenge.
You’ll also get access to my 8 upcoming masterclasses (see below).
Q: What are the masterclasses you're leading this spring?
I still reserve the right to change any of these topics, but these are the classes I’m planning on leading (the order may change):
- BDSM Basics: How to Join Your Local Kink Community (Even as a Single Person)
- BDSM Basics: How to Create an Epic FetLife Profile That Showcases Your Authentic Self
- Abradcadabra: How to Use Sex Magic for Trauma Healing
- Kinky RPGs Unlocked: Creating Authentic Roleplays in the Bedroom and the Dungeon
- Kinky Events Demystifyed: How to Navigate Your First (or Next) Play Party or BDSM Retreat
- Sexbots Unleashed: Using AI for Sexual Exploration, Submissive Training, and BDSM Practice
- Anal Play for Abundance: Opening Your Root Chakra and Clearing Money Blocks Through Sexy Play
- Soulgasm: Incorporating Ethical Energy Play into BDSM and the Bedroom
Each of these masterclasses will cost $40 to attend live ($80+ afterwards), so getting access to these is at least a $320 retail value.
Q: I’m not very techy. Is Voxer difficult to use?
Not at all! It’s really quite simple to use, which is why I like it. If you’re familiar with Messenger, WhatsApp, or Telegram, it’s similar. With Voxer, you can send me text or audio messages, and you can even send links and upload attachments. I’ve had multiple clients who are “less techy” use Voxer very successfully, and I’m happy to coach you through it once we get started.
Q: Is the Voxer coaching support really unlimited?
Yes! During the 12 weeks of the program (March 15-June 15), you can send me Voxer messages at any time. I will typically respond Mondays through Fridays 9am-5pm Central/Chicago time. I ask that you keep your Voxer messages to no more than 5 minutes long, and you wait for me to reply before sending me another message.
Generally, I’ll respond in a couple of hours. If it’s been more than 24 hours and you haven’t heard from me (and it’s not the weekend), please send me a quick text message as a reminder/follow-up.
Q: Since you’re offering so much 1:1 support, how many spots are available?
There are 10 spots available. Once they’re gone, they’re gone.
Q: Will you offer access to The Kinky Healing Vault again?
Right now, I have no plans to do so (and if I do, it will definitely not be at this rate). So, if you’re interested, I suggest you get in on it now!
Q: How do I schedule my kickoff call with you?
You will receive an email confirmation once you make your first payment. In that email, you’ll receive instructions and a link to schedule your 30-minute kickoff call with me. The kickoff call will happen over Zoom, so I ask that you book a time that you know you’ll be available.
Q: How long will I have access to the DIY content and courses?
A: You will have lifetime access to the content and courses provided as part of The Kinky Healing Vault. As long as I have that offer available, you will retain access to it. Should I end access to any of the offers at some point, you will receive 30 days’ notice and the ability to download the content.
Q: How do I access the courses and content?
All the courses and content is housed in ThriveCart. You’ll be able to access all the content from a singular dashboard that you’ll access with a unique login.
If you’re already a student, you will use the same login that you’ve already used in the past.
Q: What is your payment and refund policy?
Because of the significant amount of 1:1 time invested, I do not offer refunds.
As far as payment goes, this is not a membership or subscription, and the payment plan exists to make this offer more accessible. If you elect to pay in installments, you are responsible for paying the full amount of the program. Payment is due approximately every 30 days. So, if your first installment is on February 25, you will likely be charged on March 25 and April 25.
If your account is truant, I will not respond to Voxer messages until payment is made. If payment is more than 7 days late, your access to the DIY content will be temporarily suspended until your account is up-to-date. If payment is more than 21 days late, your account balance must be paid to regain 1:1 Voxer access and access to the course content.
Q: What are my options for 1:1 support or coaching beyond the 12 weeks?
If you would like additional support or coaching beyond April 30 (when this program ends), you can book individual coaching sessions with me for $350 each or $150 for a Voxer Power Hour. I will also be running a 6-month group coaching program starting in August (payment plans available) that will come with 1:1 access, depending on which tier of the program you decide to invest in.
Q: I have another question that’s not answered here.
Great, I love questions! Send me an email at he***@co*******************.com, and I’ll get back to you as quickly as I can.
You can also send me a message or voice note over Voxer if you’d prefer. My username is @thezeva.
The Investment
You’ve probably already invested thousands of dollars and hundreds of hours into therapy — so I want this process to be efficient and affordable.
In the past, I’ve charged $150 for a single Voxer Power Hour and $350 for a 90-minute coaching session over Zoom. The content that you get immediate access to has a retail value of $630+. Attending my upcoming masterclasses will be $40 a pop ($320 to attend them all).
Total, the retail value of The Kinky Healing Vault is at least $5,500.
But you can get it for less than the price of my DIY content alone.
That’s basically like getting 3 months of free 1:1 coaching!
Pay in Full: $800
Save $22 and get a 90-minute 1:1 coaching session with me over Zoom were we’ll dive even deeper into your healing than we can over Voxer.
Klarna, Affirm, and Afterpay available.
Monthly Payments: $274 x 3
More flexible payment options, so you can pay as-you-go and still get support. No credit checks.
Please note: If your account becomes truant, services will be suspended until you’re up to date.